After 5 Years

After 5 years of friendship filled with drinking, partying and talking nonsense together, Haji and I finally discovered that we are quite similar in many other ways than we first thought.

We have always been quite comfortable with each other’s companionship, or rather, I know I am. He is one of those few people I could just talk to about anything and everything under the sun. I guess it should not be such a surprise that we both started hanging out with each other even more when we were both single recently. It seemed like one of the most natural things to do.

Due to this natural feeling of progression, it did not take long for us to decide to take things to another level. Do not ask how or when the attraction between the two of us started because I do not have a single clue! The both of us had a theory that there may be an underlying attraction that has been there for a while now which neither of us took notice because we were committed to other people then. It was only after we got out of our past relationships respectively did we notice the attraction and decided to take a chance and see where this will go for us.

Frankly, it took me a while to think things through before I was sure and decided to give us a chance. I do not want Haji to be a rebound because if it is, I would have foolishly thrown away a wonderful 5 years friendship. I analyzed my history of relationships and was on the look out for any signs that I may not have moved on, was still hung up over the ex or possibly acting the same way I did in one of my past relationships, which sadly, was actually a rebound.

To be extra sure of myself, I decided to give myself a little test. I called Liz up knowing that she will definitely fill me in with goss on the ex. Conclusion? I did not feel anything, just mere curiousity on his escapades with women after we broke up. Was I obsessively curious on the details of it? Nope. I even visited the ex’s page in FB, knowing full well that if the heart constricts in a funny way like it did within the first week that we broke up, I am not over him and it would be unfair to Haji. Read more about what I think of rebounds here.

Knowing very well where I stand and how I feel, I gave my final answer to Haji and we have embarked on a comfortable relationship since. We are still getting to know each other better and more intimately but I think the 5 years of friendship we have under our belts definitely helped smooth things out for us. There are less awkward moments and everything felt like how it should be – natural and not forced at all.

It is rather amazing and surprising at the same time whenever we found out more similar things between us. We share the same views on religion. We think of the same things about the same situations most times. We both like and dislike almost the same things. And the list just goes on. It is these little tid bits which had surfaced that made us realised that we are both more similar than we thought we were. And only after 5 years did we realised that!

Not many people know about us with the exception of a few close friends. I guess I am just not the type who likes to announce my personal affairs to the whole world, be it good or bad. It is also partly due to being superstitious; I do not want to jinx a good thing that is going on for me. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that I am happy and contented with what I have now. And I dare say that it is the same for Haji too.